Following four years of marriage unknowingly to a Psychopath, I barely resembled the woman I once was. Prior to the Psychopath I was happy, outgoing, accomplished, confident, physically fit, financially secure, caring, friendly and loving. Now some other woman had taken her place. This other woman was unhappy, unfriendly, stressed, anxious, depressed, overweight, insecure, confused, friendless, tired, emotionally frazzled, broke and she no longer trusted herself. About Psychopaths is dedicated to providing information, support and empowerment to women, who are or have been in a relationship with a Psychopathic man.
I Don’t Understand What is Happening
After being married a little over a month he began leaving for days and months at a time. I had no idea where he went or who he was staying with. He would also leave on Christmas and other important holiday’s but never call. He traded his wedding ring in for a gold necklace. He did not think it odd to trade in the wedding ring, it had no sentimental value to him. Had I known anything about psychopaths at the time, this would have been all I needed to exit the relationship. So many unbelievable things happened during the course of our marriage. Each time he left I swore to myself that I would not call him, but because I was dedicated to the marriage I would always give in. Regardless of the reason for his leaving, he would never call me first. I guess that was part of his control – I always had to initiate contact first. It was strange because he would immediately answer, as if waiting by the phone. I felt humiliated that I allowed him to continually toy with me like this.
This is What Happened
For the last four years, I have searched the web tirelessly in an effort to find any information that could possibly explain what I was dealing with. Nothing I came across was remotely similar to what my husband was doing. However, the last time he left I searched pathological liar instead of Schizophrenic. And this time I came across a blog about women in relationship with pathological liars, aka – Psychopaths. As I began to read my heart actually skipped a beat. The more I read, the more relief welled up inside of me. I had finally found someone who had experienced the exact same thing! The overwhelming relief in the form of affirmation and confirmation was all I needed to give me hope and the courage to break the cycle. This new found awareness was nothing short of transformative for me. I yelled out load in my house, “I have been with a Psychopath! He’s a Psychopath!” In one moment I went from wondering what happened, to knowing what happened. There was an explanation and I’m not crazy.